Abbi is an advocate of children's charities, women empowerment, optimistic thinking, and slow Sundays.
A self-confessed Jane of all trades, she hopes to help girls all over the world find their calling and pursue their passions.
Example: “Please plan an event that will enable me, a 56-year-old woman, to participate in the speed dating. I just turned 40 and after reading the age group for your event I was offended.” Over 40 myself, I empathized and promised these people—my people—that I would be the one to turn this ship around. Yes, typing it out makes it sound so much worse than it did in my head, but I wanted so much for this event to happen.
I want to be honest and therefore will not crash the event planned for 47-year-olds.” Another woman wrote, “Please tell me what it is wrong with being over 35? I found another “olde taverne” type setting and arranged an event for the 42 to 54 age range. Offering free coupons meant this event would be pro bono for me—it would cost me money, actually. I did not blanket suitable suitors on but instead read every profile in this age range and explored their interests and personalities.
Whatever you do, make sure the environment is relaxed and fun.
Organize effectively with lists, name tags, and a timer.
These tips will help you organize one that is fun and full of possibilities, without so much hassle.
The final event, though, was a two-month disaster in the making, and I blame myself. But I wanted so much for it to happen that I had another of my now-famous bad ideas. All I needed to do was search a reasonable radius for men in my target age range looking for women in that target age range.
Throughout my short career as an 8minute Madame, I regularly received e-mails from singles over 40 wondering why there weren’t more events for our age group. But because soliciting the men to pay for the event in this manner would not be appropriate, I offered them a free coupon for the event.
Abbi Gabasa is the a columnist and former managing editor of Ms Career and owner of Upraised
Having the background of a Marketing and Public Relations Manager with years of professional experience in various industries has given her an insightful perspective on careers, lifestyles, relationships, and attitudes which she humorously applies in helping people through her writing.Figure out ahead of time which 10 people will be staying put (at tables, or on couches, etc.) and which 10 will be switching chairs, to make the process more effective.