When you live alone, you have a little oasis in your apartment.” Klinenberg says that solo living also allows individuals who have ended a marriage to focus on their priorities.
“Living alone gives you a chance to kind of get back on your feet and figure out who you are and what you want in your next relationship, so you can make a stronger return to social life,” he says.
And, of course, they’re a big reason that there’s so much activity and vitality in the public areas of cities today — they’re not people who are self-involved, sitting on the couch just buying things on e Bay.
They’re really a crucial part of modern social life.” Marriage can also be an expensive institution, but Klinenberg says the trend towards single life predates the Great Recession.
The most tenacious form of legal segregation, the banning of interracial marriage, was not fully lifted until the last anti-miscegenation laws were struck down in 1967 by the Supreme Court ruling in the landmark Loving v. Social enterprise research conducted on behalf of the Columbia Business School (2005–2007) showed that regional differences within the United States in how interracial relationships are perceived have persisted: Daters of both sexes from south of the Mason–Dixon line were found to have much stronger same-race preferences than northern daters did.
The study also observed a clear gender divide in racial preference with regards to marriage: Women of all the races which were studied revealed a strong preference for men of their own race for marriage, with the caveat that East Asian women only discriminated against Black and Hispanic men, and not against White men.
Gurung & Duong (1999) compiled a study relating to mixed-ethnic relationships ("MER"s) and same-ethnic relationships ("SER"s), concluding that individuals part of "MER"s generally do not view themselves differently from same-ethnic couples.
“I do think there’s a little bit of that paradox-of-choice problem,” he says.
“You have so many different options that it’s easy to find the flaws with each one and difficult to just pick some person with all their flaws — since we all do have them — and just stay with it.” In addition to having a plethora of options, the era of the extended American adolescence seems to have tempered the rush to marriage.
“It turns out people who live alone are actually more likely to volunteer in civic organizations than people who are married,” he says.
And that's not all: “They’re also more likely to spend time with friends and with neighbors.
“People are spending a big chunk of their lives — much of the 20s and even into their 30s, increasingly — becoming a grown up,” Klinenberg says.