"It's something that was in my life that happened, and I'll tell you about it."A 26-year-old Chicago man at the conference suggested sharing pieces of information or "breadcrumbs," as he called them.
For example, maybe mention you have OCD but leave the larger conversation for later. About six months in, he said, "I went through the whole rap sheet."Alison Dotson, 37, still doesn't tell her husband about every single obsession.
Because of fears like this, paying attention is a big obstacle."To probably have any dates work out, you have to be somewhat present," Grant said.
She remembers thinking, "He would never want to marry me or even be with me or even look at me if he knew the obsessions I'm having."Instead, after seeking psychological help to find out why she was tormented by sexual thoughts, her now-husband was supportive and encouraging.The National Institutes of Health defines it as a common, chronic disorder marked by uncontrollable, recurring thoughts and behaviors a person feels compelled to repeat."What if one of your fears is contamination — what if they want to hold your hand, God forbid, what if they want to kiss you? Unwanted imagery can range from germ fears to violent thoughts about family members."You can be exhausted even prior to going on the date, because you're so worried about, 'How will I manage x, y or z if it comes up? At the International OCD Foundation's annual conference in Chicago this year, a panel tackled dating.