Let's look at how this stage might play out by considering some of the same issues we looked at for the early stage.Clarity and intentions should be established when things move from "testing the waters" to "yeah, the water's fine." Don't assume that because you agreed to start dating or courting (presumably with the intention to determine whether marriage was the right thing) you (or your partner) will "just know" when things begin to progress. Maybe, but being deliberate and clear about where the relationship is need not suck all the fun, spontaneity and feeling out of the whole affair.Finally, you should tell her that if she does not find herself in the same place in terms of her feelings about the relationship (or if she becomes certain at any point moving forward that she is not interested in marriage to you), she should break up with you immediately. That's OK to a point, as you will need to have some more serious discussions about major issues.That said, it is still dangerous to spend time together alone in a private setting.In the design of a relationship that we're carving out here, caring well for one another means we can't place too high a premium on being clear. In fact, many women tell me they deeply appreciate such clarity.
in greater detail if it looks like things could be headed toward marriage, but caution is always in order as you get more deeply involved.
Before continuing with this article, please review the preamble included at the beginning of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 5: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship » My last article, "Biblical Dating: Navigating the Early Stages of a Relationship," sought to apply some of the principles we've discussed in this series to the early stages of a dating relationship.
We talked about how to establish intentions for the early stages, appropriate topics of conversation, types of dates and level of emotional investment.
The situation has obviously changed somewhat, but that is still too tempting and too intimate.
Pray with the people that are watching over your relationship.If you've gone through the early stage of the relationship and truly feel before God (to whom you will give account for your decision) that you should begin to get more intimately involved with this woman because you think marriage to her is a good possibility, you have to tell her. If done well, it should actually put you both at ease moving forward.