I had found HUNDREDS of emails from complete strangers on Craiglist – ALL SEXUAL in nature and that he had even been sending his picture to some women (just his picture of himself, not his genitals).
I continued to look at the emails – to see how long he had been doing this and found that it went back to when we first started dating.
I found out about it 3 years ago, and now the Sex Addiction has reared it’s ugly head. About 2 years ago, I moved to his home country with him and now we are married, no kids, a house and 2 great jobs. I would say that I am attractive, smart and successful myself.
I have been with my husband for 5 1/2 years and we met while I was in university. Together, from the outside, we must look like the perfect couple. 3 years ago, while we still lived in the US, I found out something extremely shocking.
He has since admitted that he has a problem and broke down in tears saying that he is so torn inside and feels that he has a “Bad” self and a “good” self – but doesn’t know what the problem is and has agreed very willingly to seek treatment and help right away. I have attached that document, if you would like to see it. Every bone in my body is telling me to divorce and never look back.
I am self-sustainable, still young (turning 27 in February). He isvery kind and funny, and smart and successful, and I believe him when he says that he wants treatment and that this marriage is the most important thing in his life.
I just happened to be on the computer in the home that he owns in the US (he was back living in his home country at this point – I was to join him in 6 months.
He left early to start his new job, the original reason to move back).
I am scared that he is not telling me the truth, so I have to assume the worst – though he claims he never physically cheated on me, I don’t believe him. I hope that counseling and time will help you see that you do have a problem and you can begin the healing process.
If I even suspect that you are doing something shady, then I will move out and initiate a divorce.
If you truly believe that this marriage is the most important thing in your life, then you will think about the repercussions of all your actions to the marriage.
YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO SET BOUNDARIES AND ABIDE BY THOSE BOUNDARIES.
COUNSELING: You have to accept right now that counseling may have to be a part of your life for a very long time, and by long time, I mean years.He also brought up very inappropriate innuendos including their “old bedroom” and “how great it was” – he questioned how she was, what her life is like, etc.