But it's not an exact science — there are plenty of immature older men that would put teenagers to shame.
Woman D: I'm now married to a man who is five years older than me so I suppose patterns would say I'm attracted to men older than me.
I think that because I was 18, he had expectations that I would be wild and crazy and open to anything.
There were things that he expected with his party lifestyle that I felt very uncomfortable with, but would ignore my instinct and go along with to make him happy.
My theory is that the two are linked and that the age difference facilitates a dom/sub dynamic.
" My mother was less OK with it, but I expected that. Woman D: My family, especially my father, were very much against the relationship. My friends thought it was "gross" and it took them nearly all four years of college to warm up to my boyfriend.We've had talks about what is nonnegotiable and about certain things he may be open to in the future. I think he was much more secure and caring of the awkwardness of sex than a 26-year-old.