But however long-lost loves reunite — a social site, a dating site, a phone call, a note or even a chance meeting at a reunion or a funeral — there's an allure in rekindling a simmering flame. When Debby Klein agreed to have dinner four years ago with her old buddy Jeff Stiel, she was unclear if it was a date or just two old camp-counselor friends getting together at the urging of a mutual friend.
"Shared history brings a comfort we especially want as we get older," says psychologist Stan Tatkin, author of Your Brain on Love. Dating wasn't high on Debby's priority list; she had recently ended a long relationship that followed her divorce.
Who hasn't wondered what might happen if an old flame found his or her way back into your life?
I was a fool to have let Gayle go." They've been a couple ever since that lunch, though they maintain separate homes.So their 2014 wedding invitation featured a 1981 photo taken after the pair won a highly competitive mixed-doubles camp tennis tournament. Janice says her father said, "Stop seeing that boy, or I'll cut off your tuition — and you damn well better listen to me." As Janice explains, "The Willsons were East Coast people with important careers.My father was a street-smart rough guy who didn't think intellectual knowledge was worth anything." Janice's mother's support notwithstanding, the young lovers were unable to make it work. Prentiss went on to graduate from Harvard Law School and practice in the San Francisco Bay Area.Sparking Romance Over Dinner Debby Klein and Jeff Stiel Met: 1980, in college in Queens, N. Plus, both are jocks: Debby, 53, is a personal trainer, and mortgage financier Jeff, 54, competes in basketball and softball leagues; they also play tennis together. "When I'm with Jeff, words I haven't used for 40 years pop into my head." Back when they were still just college friends in Queens, Jeff got Debby her job at Camp Hillel in Swan Lake, N. He had a crush on her, but Debby was dating another young man.
The couple connected on a deeper level, too — all four of their parents are Holocaust survivors. "There was definitely an attraction," Debby recalls, "but Jeff was emotionally intense.Our lives are hard, but our relationship is easy." Finding Each Other at a Funeral Diane Nerheim and Marvin Ugland Dated: 1964, at the University of North Dakota Married: April 4, 2015, in San Francisco In a strange way, it was their mothers — lifelong friends — who brought Diane Nerheim and Marvin Ugland together, although neither mom lived to see them reunited.