You know your way around a camera, you’re an excellent dancer, you play classical guitar, you have awesome tattoos, you make a killer chicken almondine.Personally, at the end of this I like to say something along the lines of “…and I’m modest too! No, But Seriously: You drop the slightly cocky facade to be real: she seems like a cool person.Instead, you want to start with”You look like you might be interesting.” “You seem like you could be cool.” “Something about your profile intrigues me.” See the common thread here?First of all: that attracts you, but you’re still holding back some in the hopes that she’ll prove herself to be as interesting as you might think.Much like in the real world, first impressions count for everything; in online dating, women have even way of contacting someone: the wink, poke, nudge, smile, flirt function.Just about every online dating site out there has some variation on this. Too many people spend too much time focusing on one particular girl at a time, developing an online version of one-itis.
Much like dating in the real world, online dating presents an almost infinite number of ways to shoot yourself in the foot and kill your chances before you even get started.
Why You’re Contacting Her: You aren’t going to mention anything about her physical appearance.
If you weren’t attracted to her, you wouldn’t be writing to her in the first place, and it sounds like a pick-up line at best.
Personally, I’ve written things like “Pirates Are Much Cooler Than Ninjas” or “Who Ordered The Large Cheese Pizza, Double Anchovies”; anything that comes to mind.
It helps you to stand out from all the people who title their emails “Hi”, “Ur Hottt” or “I Like You.” Being unique works in your favor here and ups your chances of being deleted unread.
You want her to know that you a) have a life and b) have your shit together.