Some readers might remember I wrote about how my husband helped me learn to love my curves — so it’s no wonder he considers this one of my “assets”! My filial piety — whether towards his parents or towards other elders, like my grandma. Good póxí guānxì (婆媳关系, relationship between me and my mother-in-law). He said so for many reasons, but the fact that I’m a vegan and still make him his favorite meats — such as red-braised pork — definitely counts towards this! But it’s kind of nice to have a man who loves that I’m a nerd. We may have three inches of separation between us, but he’s still proud to have a wife who stands taller. You might say we balance each other, an “emotional yin-yang.” 4. I’ll be honest, I blushed at first when he told me this. Definitions As usual, we need to get our definitions straight.By “much younger women” I’m usually talking about VYW, which I define as women between the age of 18 and 23.It fails for a very simple reason: The VYW most likely to have sex with you are the Type 2s, which are women who younger men their own age.Being an older man, but acting like a younger man (or worse, lying about your age) doesn’t make any sense.
I know, I know — one of my most popular posts talks about the troubling Chinese mother-in-law relationship. John actually expressed this with a Chinese saying: shàng dé liao tīngtáng, xià dé liao chúfáng (上得了厅堂，下得了厨房), or someone who can “meet guests (i.e. When I returned to China for the second time in 2001 (after a year of teaching English from 1999 to 2000), I actually went alone — something that led my husband to privately dub me a “hero” (which is kind of funny to me! And while I know it sure doesn’t rank highest on the courage-meter, it’s definitely a sweet thing to appreciate. In other words, all the things you would never do if you were on a date with an over-33 woman (because then she’ll shove you in Make Him Wait zone).Mistake Number 2: Acting Like A Creepy Older Man, i.e.They want a 38 year-old guy who acts like a decently cool, non-creepy, 38 year-old guy. I’ve been doing this for years, and to this day I’m still surprised how fast and easy it is (once you find those Type 2s of course). It’s simply a very strong, visceral preference, often based on the age of her parents which obviously you have zero control over.
It’s true that if you’re really good looking or have extremely strong game you can overcome the fact that you’re acting younger and score with those Type 2s anyway, but why create the extra work for yourself? In most cases I’ve seen, and I’ve seen a lot, the reason guys try to act younger is because they’re trying to have sex with the Type 1s I’ve got news for you. Type 1s are horrified at the thought of having sex with men much older than they are. Even if you’ve think you’ve had sex with a reluctant Type 1 VYW before, it’s not because she was a Type 1…she was a reluctant Type 3. When I feel something strongly, I can’t help but let it show — which is different from John.