You know the drill: You ferociously check his Instagram feed to see if he has deleted your memories together.
You’ll secretly deep dive into every female who leaves a trace on his Facebook profile.
But really—reporting live from the front lines of singledom—it’s not so bad!
I’ve been meeting guys through Bumble and out in the world.
Was the divorce amicable and are both parties on good terms?
Are you actively involved in each others’ lives as “friends”? How long was the relationship failing before you broke up?
Then look for a man who makes you want a second date.
Start with small steps, allowing your mind to start imagining the fun stuff again—a first kiss, watching your first movie, saving his address in your preferred food delivery app.
The only “right” answer is “whenever it feels right, as long as you’re not hurting anybody else.” The thing is: you might be surprised when you’re hurting someone else. The best example I can provide is from my own life. To me, it was the equivalent of being fired from a job. I was in no position to be a boyfriend to anyone but my beloved ex-girlfriend. My need to move on superseded her need to be with an emotionally available guy…. If so – if you’ve mourned, if you’ve healed, if you’ve made peace – then you’re ready whenever you say you’re ready.Metaphorically speaking, that sea should be full of fish, but it won’t seem that way. The idea of beginning again, of building up years worth of memories, inside jokes, trust, and plans for the future, can feel like yet another wave threatening to crush you.