Secrets to dating men


Just because men tend to be terrible at expressing their emotions (thanks, patriarchy and testosterone), it doesn’t mean that they don’t have them. If you think that dress makes your ass look big (as if that were a bad thing) take it off, cause we want to see you naked. I put it in the sort-of medium category because it is a helpful tip, I guess (“don’t go to fast”). If he think’s his sexual satisfaction is more important than your desire to keep your body the way you want, that’s a big, big no. When we look at you for more than a split second, we’re not thinking of furiously smashing you or creeping, it can mean you look great, you have perfect eyes, you look good in what your wearing, your hair is looking great, that smile! Or occasionally it’s the smashing, but more often than not, you look great. Not so much NSFW as it is just something i think women should be aware of.

I think the most helpful part about this one is to remember that if your male partner is upset, it’s probably . Even if I’m preoccupied with work or whatever, it’s on the back burner haha. Then again, I also feel like this is something that’s a little more subjective to be discussed with a partner, and that the flippant delivery negates it’s helpfulness. But requirement, strong opinion, or anything more than just a personal preference? Ladies, you might not have ever considered how much courage it takes for a guy to approach a female he is interested in.

Every so often the straight women of Reddit ask their male counterparts what “men wish women knew” about them.



I like this, because I feel like women need to stop having sex when they don’t want to (#rapeculture at work, folks), but I feel that it needs some nuanced commentary: 1) The last sentence makes this iffy because it low-key implies that the reason to not have sex when you don’t want to is because it’s not as good for your partner; and 2) hey, dude, ever consider that maybe girls do that because make it seem like you’ll be upset (or scary or whatever it is) if they don’t? It’s not easy to walk up to a beautiful women and say ” i would really like to get in your pants” but not in so many words. You’re not there to get to know her, you just said you’re there to f*ck her. If you want to get pumped and dumped by a player, put ‘NO PLAYERS’ on your dating site profile. iow, the guy that is a good fit for you will initially give out red flags because he isn’t a player. Do guys not understand that “red flags” for women are not just “things I don’t like,” it’s like “things that signal that he might wrong me in a very serious way.” Red flags are your gut telling you that something is not right there.

[Read: 6 ways to kiss a friend accidentally and get away with it] #2 Build the sexual tension.

Your date must want to kiss you back, or at the least, you must know that your date would reciprocate it before you try kissing. It’s a great way to pass your sexual vibes to them.

I was going to make this a round-up for “fun little secrets” for you ladies, but turns out that it’s way more complicated than that. I did not know this—I always kind of assumed that it got too sensitive to keep going after the big finish. Half the comments on this thread were about how all guys think about doing really messed up sexual things to women and many of them have revealed the real level of deeply engrained misogyny (that, somehow, you’ve translated into your own victimization).


It’s always good to understand your partner’s body better. Translation: “don’t forget that men have feelings, too.” That sounds so trite, but it’s important. If I feel uncomfortable, it’s not a compliment and it’s not up to 3.

Just like us, other emotions and stresses affect them. They really have no idea how much we think about it and what we think about it Read some accounts of trans men when they first start HRT and they get their first taste of male levels of testosterone. If you want it (and it’s in a consensual situation) go for it.” There is also a tinge of “give me more blow jobs to be sexy to me,” which is not great—don’t do anything you don’t want to to be “saintly” to men… This is important to remember—your male friends and partners also want to be told that they look nice sometimes—but it kind of reinforces something that feminists are trying to change: the idea that commenting on someone’s appearance is always a compliment, or that “pretty” is the goal. Has this dude never heard of “constructive criticism? Shaving (legs, pits especially) may be a double-standard, but it’s one of those great differences that men love. Shave your legs or don’t, ladies, but here’s the thing—someone who actually has a strong opinion on your body hair? I know it goes both ways but, more often than not women expect men to make the first move.


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