My father has many positive traits: he is intelligent, hardworking, and caring, but he is socially awkward does not stand up for himself.
He is what red pillers call “beta” and earlier generations of men called “pussy whipped.” My siblings and I grew up in this dysfunctional household without a solid model for how men (or women) act in healthy relationships.
Much of what we assume to be the accepted wisdom regarding relationships is based around intellectual fallacies and cultural assumptions with no actual fact behind them.
In fact, many of these cultural biases end up coloring the study of relationships and human sexuality, letting confirmation bias and naturalistic fallacies distort scientific inquiry.
Eventually my brother decided to “just go for it” with his girlfriend at a party.
To “break” her he would ignore and insult her in public, spread rumors about her, and use the more coercive PUA tactics.