Both wanted to live in the other’s country, so Andre came up with a very practical solution: ‘Why don’t we get married? She could live in the States with him for a while, and after, he would live in Japan with her. Oddly enough, an opportunity to go to Japan came up in 2005.
The Japanese girl was surprised but accepted the offer. However, the more time they spent together, the more they realised that they didn’t have much in common. Japan is a relatively well-off country, so a Japanese woman won’t usually marry a western man for a better life.
So don’t tell her I’m from Tanzania.’ According to Joshua, a lot of African men pretend to be American so that they can get girls.
Despite that, Joshua has dated several Japanese girls. ’ Andre, the Jamaican man, once received a text from a Japanese girl he had met a couple of days earlier.
Andre, the Jamaican man, met a Japanese girl in a chat room.
At that time, he lived in the States and she lived in Japan. Having gone through a long-distance relationship, they found that their bond had become stronger.
Andre’s case was misfortunate because he had a particularly direct communication style and his ex-girlfriend had a particularly indirect communication style. When Charles, a British guy, met her, he immediately liked her. A few days later, Charles sent her a message: ‘Hey, let’s go out again sometime.’ To this, she politely replied, ‘No thanks.’ Her lack of interest wasn’t the only problem. Some of these restaurants are managed by Japanese-Indian couples.
‘You know, she did the same thing to me,’ Andre said. Frank, an American man, dated many Russian women before meeting his current Japanese girlfriend.
Recently, I interviewed a lot of people for my book who had dated or married Japanese women. ‘All right, let’s leave,’ Andre said, and they left.