Yet many friends of mine who had previously ruled out anyone with children on a dating site are now happily dating (or married to) single parents they met in real life.
With judgemental tick-boxes they would have filtered out the very person they are in love with now.
When she reduced her height to 5ft 9in, that rocketed to almost 2,000.
A full 1,600 men would have unknowingly discounted this amazing person because of 2.5cm of extra leg length – and she would have continued to find internet dating limited and unsuccessful.
Some find this a barrier to join, fans say it weeds out the casual chancer from those truly looking for love – and means you don’t have to wait to broach tricky topics.
Pricier – it’s £44.95 for a month, but that drops to £12.95 per month if you sign up for a year.
You can’t browse pictures or profiles – you wait to be matched by the mystery algorithm after answering the 400 questions – then you are guided through a contact process.
Some may think it lacks the spontaneity of other dating sites – and you certainly can’t use it to get a quick date for the weekend.
One 5ft 10in friend reports she saw only 400 potential men to browse when she logged in to
Pitches itself as the site to go to for ‘serious, lasting relationships’ and marriage – which may well be refreshing to some in the current dating climate.
Psychologists and dating experts guide you through each step of the process – including messaging, which is somewhat structured and scripted – and there’s an anonomisation function for calling.
However, they do have a live help service at their homepage to talk you through joining.
Pros: Uses compatibility testing to match you with someone who shares the same worldview as you.
It seems unavoidable that if we have filters and tick-boxes for features and likes or dislikes, we could be cutting off literally thousands of potential suitors because of something we might have thought minor or irrelevant if we met in the flesh.