You are investing deeper and deeper in this guy, despite the fact that he’s not showing any signs of chasing.I know this position sucks, and what makes it worse is that the guy gives you no obvious sign about what he wants.Do you really want a man who you would have to get his parents to remind him to pay attention to you?
The Bachelor In Paradise 2017 perfectly illustrated this over and over and over.
He may not be interested in any kind of serious relationship, but he wants to boost his self-esteem by reminding himself that women are attracted to him sexually.
Hence he goes and dates and sends flirty texts even when he has no desire for things to move forward. The trick is knowing the difference between him Before a guy does these things, by all means you can be in contact and flirt with him, but don’t hold out a false hope that with enough time he’ll suddenly “get serious” and start pursuing you for a relationship.
Compare that to when you WANT to talk and are relaxed and in the right head space. The truth is you were obsessed and feeling bothered by his silence. The underlying thought is: if he’s not cooperating, report him to someone who does have (possible) authority over him: his parents.
Yes, that’s a half-baked thought born out of urgency (that his parents would intervene on your behalf of an adult son), but there are some men controlled by one of their parents, seemingly forever, so it has its merit in the minds of desperate women.
I seem to always attract “great guys”, and we always have a lot of fun.