Whatever his economic structure is, he provides for you and he will give you whatever he can. If you have been dating a guy for six months, he has a title for you. He will let nothing happen to you within his means. Every guy I talk to doesn’t really care for women who are not striving in their life to have something of their own. e Harmony: I guess it goes without saying then that women need to keep their legs shaved? e Harmony: What do you think are the keys to a successful relationship? Require that of him and you will get more out of your relationship from a guy. Most guys can’t get a girl that has been on the cover of the swimsuit edition. Women have been made to believe that this is what beauty is, well guess what?If after six months, he is still calling you a friend, he has no plans for you. A man loves in threes, if he tells you he loves you, but he doesn’t protect or provide for you, he is just telling you what you want to hear to get what he wants. e Harmony: When a couple is dating, what are the top red flags that can turn a man off to a woman? Steve Harvey: Grooming is critical, just like it is critical for a woman. Women think we don’t look at stuff, but we are a very simple people, we like shiny things. Steve Harvey: Trust and honesty is the cliché answer, but I can tell women that from a male standpoint, the key to a successful relationship is that the woman comes into the relationship with standards and requirements. When I am saying don’t get involved, I am not saying you shouldn’t date. The moment you put the physical part into dating, it changes the parameters of dating. I can get away with anything now.” We are professional hunters. But the women who slows it down, who says, “Hey, hold on. I want to find out if this guy is willing to stick around.” A guy who is sticking around is planning something with you. e Harmony: Your book explains how to tell the good guys from the players, but what attracts a man in the first place? Every woman doesn’t fit on the cover of Sports Illustrated’s swimsuit edition. There are full-figured women getting married every day. There are women with short hair getting married every day. Someone who will care for you if you are conducting yourself as a lady, if you have a great personality, if you carry yourself well, if you take care of yourself physically.A lot of women don’t know that if you don’t sit your guy down and talk to him about what you want, if you don’t make it a requirement … The TV host and personality has teamed up with to provide a unique dating experience for singles looking for the real thing, baby.It doesn’t take us six months to figure out if you are the one. That is the key to a guy: a woman who has standards and requirements and, in the book, I talk about this extensively. Women have to establish their standards and requirements because the guy will only give you as much respect as you command. I am a firm believer that God will eventually cause you and your soulmate’s paths to cross. The majority of the women I know can’t really separate the two. So I am saying, date, go to movies, but save your benefits for the guys that are deserving of your benefits. e Harmony: You say in your book that women should wait 90 days before giving out benefits … I am telling you that if you sleep with a guy on the first night, it is not a smart move. If you sleep with me on the first night that is great for me, but I assure you that rarely works out for the woman, because the guy goes, “Wow. If he just wants to play with you, he just wants to get it. I don’t want to rush it,” he’ll say, “I am out of here.” Let him go. I teach my sons that they cannot get in the car until their mothers and sisters are in the car. Steve Harvey: A lot of things come into play: Your confidence level, the way you carry yourself. You may not be the hottest chick at the office, or the hottest chick down at the club, but man, carry yourself with some dignity. You may not have a man, but dress up like you care about yourself.It is critical that a woman says up front what she wants out of a relationship — and don’t worry about running a guy off. e Harmony: Does that mean that women should expect to spend some time alone while they are waiting for Mr. Most women — not all — but most women have to be emotionally attached to you to get physical with you. Steve Harvey: It is like this: You uncover a lot about a guy in 90 days. I have talked this over with a lot of men — all of my research in this book is from talking to men. It might not take you 90 days, but on a job, you spend eight hours a day five days a week getting to know a person before they give you benefits. He is not going to be a happy camper coming back, but sometimes a guy can make a mistake and he can learn from it and go, “Wow. I teach my sons that if I turn around and you are in that car and your mother and sisters are not in that car, I am crushing you because suppose something happens — a dog attack or something — and we are in the car and the girls are not, how can we protect them? Do you know that your boyfriend or your man is supposed to walk closest to the curb? He is supposed to pull your chair out at the restaurant; he is supposed to open the door for you at the mall. If you care about you, it causes someone else to care about you, too. Steve Harvey: One of the biggest mistakes women make is they expect their love to be returned the exact same way they give it out.That is one of the biggest mistakes because our love is a little bit different.
A woman should never be afraid to say what she wants, what she is looking for, and if a guy doesn’t want to do [what she lays out], let him go about his business, because we are going to be doing one of two things with you: We are going to be playing with you, or we are going to be planning with you. Steve Harvey: It is my firm belief that God has created someone for everyone. Why would God having created your soulmate never allow you to meet him/her? It was really eye-opening for me to put the words on the page and share the chapters with my wife. Then I teach women how to get how to get those things from a particular candidate that they are interested in.e Harmony: What are the biggest mistakes women make when dating?Some guys don’t get it, but they haven’t read the book either, as don’t a lot of men.
Sometimes men don’t read, so they think it is giving up the game, but it shouldn’t be a game when it comes to somebody’s happiness and somebody’s life. I think the disadvantage some women have had is they haven’t been exposed to the way men think of things.Don’t go on a date saying stuff like, “We will see how it goes.” Don’t do that. You women have the greatest benefit package available to man and you have lost sight of that over the years. Writing it caused me to sit down and talk to her about each of these chapters and it actually made our relationship a lot better. One of the reasons was because I had to come up with examples and stories.