It can literally destroy their foreseeable future in 90 seconds.We’ll talk more about that next week, in fact, as we consider how to brief teenagers on this important topic. Wes Crenshaw is a board-certified family psychologist and director of the Family Therapy Institute Midwest.So far, over 250,000 people have liked the post and it's been shared almost 90,000 times.Many people are commenting on the photos in support of the father, but some are concerned it might be too embarrassing for a young girl to handle.Besides, ordering your daughter not to date this guy probably won’t stop her. If you want to protect your daughter, you need to approach the situation differently.You have three things to consider: the guy, outside sources and your daughter in order to assess whether the relationship is dangerous for her, while still giving her the space she needs. Don’t pull out your shotgun or start an interrogation. Show respect for her decision through your interest in her thoughts about him.While there is evidence that girls dating older guys are more likely to face relationship violence and to abuse substances, relationships are not statistics.It would be a mistake to order your daughter not to date him just because you think dating an older guy is “risky.” That choice would be like throwing away an apple because there MIGHT be a worm in it.
I realize that’s hard to gauge, but you have to figure it out before knowing what’s going on with this guy.Breaking rules has consequences if you're caught and one father in Louisville, Kentucky, got creative with punishment when he caught his 5th grader posing on social media as a teenager and with a boyfriend.Instead of flying off the handle and grounding his 10-year-old daughter, Kevin Jones made sure no one could confuse her for a 15, 16 or 17-year-old again.Again, those things don’t matter as much if he’s 17. Finally, after you’ve exhausted all of Samantha’s excellent suggestions and determined that this guy is OK, sit down and have dinner and get some big issues out on the table: birth control, substance abuse and rules.
Young adults have easy access to a great many things that teenagers should not.Your daughter must keep following basic rules (like curfew, grades, etc.), and her boyfriend needs to support that WITHOUT FAIL.