He went back to France and we started emailing each other. All of a sudden, after one of my emails, he stopped writing. Could he have been run over by a pommes frites lorry and be in the hospital and that's why he disappeared? But I have to say, the law of averages says that it's more likely he met someone or realised that the long-distance thing wasn't for him, or that you simply may not be the girl of his dreams. We started talking about marriage two years ago and he said he wasn't ready. We talked about it recently and he said that he still wasn't ready. I hate to tell you this, but here's why he feels rushed: He's still not sure you're the one. I just think you might want to be realistic in how capable you are of changing the primordial impulses that drive all of human nature. Dear Greg, My boyfriend hasn't had a job in two years.If you want to email him and ask him again to close the door in your face, for the .0001 per cent chance his phone died and his email crashed, and he lost all your contact information, be my guest. One hundred per cent of men polled who had 'disappeared' on a woman said that at the time they were completely aware of what a horrible thing they were doing, and no woman calling them up and talking to them would have changed that. He reminded me that we're young and we still have a lot of time and there's no need to rush. I'm only 28 and people get married much later these days. Yep, my lovely, I know it's hard to hear, but better to hear it now than ten years from now. He's really sweet and wonderful, but just doesn't know what he wants to do with his life. It turns out you both love James Bond movies and share a mutual loathing of baked beans. Here, in the form of spoof Agony Aunt letters which are the basis of the book, Greg and Liz address romantic dilemmas - which may sound uncomfortably familiar. I have this friend I've known platonically for about ten years. All of a sudden it felt like we were on a date and he was really flirting with me. I hate to tell you, but that whole 'I don't want to ruin the friendship' excuse is a racket. Unfortunately in the entire history of mankind, that excuse has never ever been used by someone who actually means it. According to Behrendt - a self-confessed former 'bad boy' who is now happily married - men are not complicated (though they'd like you to think they are). If he keeps giving reasons for not committing to you - or you're making excuses for his bad behaviour - the truth is probably that he's just not that into you. Here's the truth: men don't mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex.I believe filtering their motives from what they do and say is easier than you would imagine.There are key indicators right from the start in the dating world – clues to identify what a guy really wants from the outset.If we're friends with someone and attracted to them, we're going to want to take it further. The only thing he's scared of - and I say this with a lot of love - is how attracted to you he is. Many women have said to me: 'Greg, men rule the world.' That makes us sound pretty capable.
The bestselling book He's Just Not That Into You has all the answers and has now been turned into a film - out in Britain next week - starring Jennifer Aniston, Scarlett Johansson, Drew Barrymore and Ben Affleck. Nudge away - but watch how fast that nudge doesn't get a return phone call.We enjoy the challenge – the chase – and we also enjoy the attention.